Adult ADHD
It’s impact on self and relationships
Understanding Adult ADHD
Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is often thought of as a childhood condition, but many adults continue to live with ADHD symptoms that impact work, daily life, and—most importantly—relationships. Adults with ADHD may struggle with:
Difficulty staying focused or following through on commitments
Impulsivity in conversations and decision-making
Forgetfulness or disorganization
Emotional regulation challenges
These symptoms can create stress in romantic partnerships, leading to misunderstandings, frustration, and recurring conflict. When ADHD shows up in a relationship, both partners can feel unheard, unsupported, or overwhelmed.
ADHD and Relationships
Relationships where one or both partners live with ADHD often face unique challenges, such as:
Unequal division of household responsibilities
Feeling like one partner is “the responsible one” while the other is “the forgetful one”
Frequent arguments triggered by impulsivity or missed expectations
Emotional disconnect when one partner feels misunderstood or criticized
Left unaddressed, these patterns can erode trust and intimacy. However, with the right support, couples can learn how to break out of unhealthy cycles and create a stronger, more balanced partnership.
How Couples Counseling Helps
Couples counseling provides a safe space for partners to:
Identify how ADHD is impacting the relationship dynamic
Learn communication tools that reduce defensiveness and increase understanding
Rebuild connection by fostering empathy and accountability
Develop strategies for managing daily challenges together
By acknowledging both the neurological and relational aspects of ADHD, counseling empowers couples to move from conflict to collaboration.
Relational Life Therapy (RLT) for Couples with ADHD
Relational Life Therapy (RLT), developed by renowned therapist Terry Real, is a transformative approach to couples counseling that directly addresses power struggles, communication breakdowns, and patterns of disconnection. Unlike traditional talk therapy, RLT is active, honest, and practical.
For couples navigating ADHD, RLT is especially powerful because it:
Helps both partners recognize and break free from destructive interaction cycles
Encourages accountability without shame or blame
Builds relational skills rooted in empathy, respect, and healthy boundaries
Strengthens intimacy by teaching partners how to show up authentically and compassionately
RLT doesn’t just manage symptoms—it helps couples create lasting change in how they relate to one another.
Why Choose Counseling for ADHD & Relationships?
Seeking support is not about fixing one partner—it’s about strengthening the relationship as a whole. With ADHD-informed counseling rooted in Relational Life Therapy, couples can:
Feel more connected and understood
Reduce conflict and resentment
Share responsibilities more equitably
Deepen trust, intimacy, and partnership
Take the Next Step
If ADHD is creating tension in your relationship, you don’t have to navigate it alone. With guidance and tools tailored to your unique challenges, you and your partner can build a stronger, more fulfilling connection.